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Embracing Your Unique Journey - The end of Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda

July 06, 20233 min read

Every individual walks a unique journey throughout their life, with each path diverging and intersecting in different ways. Yet, the societal pressure to compare our progress, our successes, and our failures against others' is often a heavy burden that many of us bear. These are the moments when we tend to utter phrases like "Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda," leading to unnecessary self-doubt and self-criticism.

Society's Influence and the Trap of Comparison

The impact of societal pressure to conform to norms and compare ourselves to others is immense. It leads to unnecessary self-doubt and self-criticism, hindering our personal growth and happiness. Take the example of the numerous people who regret their lack of focus in school, believing that this somehow put them on a back foot for the rest of their lives. It's time to break free from this cycle and embrace our individuality.

The Power of Unconventional Paths

Embracing Your Unique Journey

Contrary to popular belief, a non-traditional path is not a hindrance to success. Some of the best business people, some of the most successful people around, often tell stories of their unconventional journey to success. Their path wasn't linear, and they certainly didn't follow a standard timeline. They found their success when they were ready for it, not when society decided it was the right time.

Case Study: Steve Bartlett's Journey to Success

Steve Bartlett, a successful entrepreneur, defied societal norms and achieved remarkable success. By quitting school and pursuing his own passions, he proved that success doesn't always follow a linear path. What's important about Bartlett's story isn't that he quit school or walked a non-traditional path, but that he found the right thing for him. He didn't adhere to the societal norm, and he embraced that. He once admitted to having "Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda" moments, but they're a thing of the past now.

Defining Your Own Success

Success should not be defined solely by societal standards. Each person has their own values and aspirations, and true success comes from aligning our actions with those personal measures. This is not to say that the 'norm' is bad, but rather that it doesn't have to be your norm. Each person is different, and what works for one person might not work for another. If the traditional path works for you, that's wonderful, but if it doesn't, that's equally fine. Reflect on your own definition of success and redefine it on your terms.

Navigating the Journey of Self-Discovery

Finding our true path requires self-reflection and exploration. What matters is that you are true to yourself, that you pursue what you believe in, and that you don't measure your life's worth by someone else's measure of success. By delving into our passions and interests, we can uncover our unique talents and purpose.

Letting Go of "Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda"

The End of Shoulda Coulda Woulda

The self-doubt and regret expressed in phrases like "Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda" only hold us back. Next time you catch yourself in the cycle of 'Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda,' remember - these are measures we place against ourselves based on other people's journeys. We are mapping our success on the same journey as someone else's, but the reality is that our paths are different. Each person is unique, and that's what makes life interesting.

Embracing our unique journey allows us to break free from societal expectations and comparison. By defining our own measures of success and pursuing our passions, we find fulfillment and happiness. Let's let go of regrets, embrace our freedom, and confidently navigate the path that feels right for us. Our unique journey is waiting to unfold, and it's in our hands to make it extraordinary.

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Lindsey Atkins

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